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I've always had trouble making and keeping friends and connecting with people and always feel left out when I'm in groups and like other people like others better than me. I have social anxiety and depression, and have wasted 3 years of my life in a rut unable to dig myself out of the hole. I can't be...

8 months ago 8


  1. Queen of Castle

    I was in the same boat as you, I still am in fact. I believe that if you ended up like this then you can get out, if you got in, you can climb back out, no matter how difficult that may seem.
    Ask yourself, 'what did I enjoy doing?' and just do it, even if you don't feel up to it, because excuses are the enemy. Also, exercise, because that makes you feel a lot better, because it releases hormones that make you feel good. I'd also suggest going back to counselling as it can take a while and you just have to stick with it.
    But the most important thing is to believe in yourself, you can do it, and your not a failure, because you're just thinking irrationally. If you got this far in life then you must have done something right. You have to believe and not give up, no matter what. No matter how hard it seems. You can't let it control you, otherwise you can never be happy. There are tonnes of people in your situation but they managed to overcome it, so if they did, you can too.
    Good luck :)

  2. Joey

    Don't give up please. That's not what life is about. You don't have to go out and party in order to enjoy life. There are so many other things that you can do.
    I have never went to a party with a group of friends before. I've always had only one friend. But they never treated me well.
    Sometimes, having no friends can be better than having many friends. So don't look down on yourself if you didn't get the chance to party or hang out with many friends.
    And plus, you still have a long life to live. You still have college, and work.
    You never know, you may meet many new people in college.
    In life, many people will come and go. If you don't let go of the old things, new things won't come.
    But for now if you would like to meet a few friends, you could go online and do so (Instagram) I had a friend who met someone there and now they are best friends.
    But just because you are depressed or have social anxiety, it does not mean you are less than anyone else.
    Dont give up!

  3. Megan

    nah you are just going through a rough patch. Life is way more than this, just stick to it and you'll come out the other end.

    "ill link to the source something on youtube that should help you
    if it doesn't come out just search "The Laughing Heart - Charles Bukowski - A Short Film " it is less than 2 minutes.

    I suggest watching it after taking a freezing cold shower, for best effect. You'll have a totally different outlook of life in about 3 minutes from now. Good luck.

  4. gramt

    I'm a 21 year old lad and have had the literal exact same thing for 7 years now and just like you said I watched people all going out and feel ide missed everything only recently have I managed to break out and start going out I haven't made any friends yet but I went out to a night club on my own I have no one to go with and oviusly this is weird but ill leav my fb and if your in the uk ide be happy to go to a party with you its what I want to achive and ide feel I had much more reason to be there or whatever idk but I wouldn't judge and we can be anti social together :P iver way if you want to talk to some one suffering with the same problem and advice just msg me ^^

  5. Roland

    Listen here, I was never a party-goer nor someone who had hung out throughout my high schools years. I am now in my mid-prime and I still live at home with no job since I am still working towards my degree. Trust me, not everybody is living the social scene, and not always because of hindrances. Sometimes, we choose not to because it is not everybody's flavor. You need to stop falling for peer pressure and start living your own life.

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